I have been asking this question to people for a while. Now it is your turn!
Before reading any further, take a minute and ask yourself this question:
“What Makes Me Happy?”
You might realize that you have never asked yourself that. Maybe you are so used to putting other’s needs in front of your own that you never take time for yourself. I really want you to take a minute and really think about the question.
Please do it now. It’s totally cool. I’ll wait.
Okay, welcome back. If you can’t think of something right now, that’s okay.
The interesting thing about this question is that you will keep thinking about it. It might seem strange, but you really will.
If you need to take a day or two to ponder about this question, to really dig deep to find what makes you happy, that’s GREAT!
You can continue reading or come back after you find out YOUR answer to this question!
Still, with me, let’s continue …
Focus On Yourself. It’s Okay To Be Selfish
This question is personal to YOU. After thinking about this, you would be surprised at what is going through your own head.
Some common things I have seen include:
- Asking someone close to them, ‘What do you think makes me happy?’
- Hearing the reply, “I’m happy when my wife is happy.” Yes, that might be true, but you need to be selfish and really dig deeper to determine what makes YOU happy.
- Replying with the question back to me, “Well, what makes you happy.”
- Another and most common, “I don’t know.”
The one piece of advice I can share with you is to focus internally, focus on yourself. Stop thinking about what others think, what you think you should answer, and it’s okay to be selfish with your answer.
Stay away from thinking about what makes your dog happy, your boy or girlfriend happy, your neighbors happy, and so on. The question, again, is for YOU to answer and only you.
Being happy is many different things. It can mean a lot once you really start focusing on the question and answers.
Best of all, it can include MANY THINGS!
- Drinking amazing coffee while reading an awesome blog (thanks for being here).
- Sitting still and listening to some music.
- Being present in the moment.
After focusing on this question, I started noticing how amazing the small and simple things in life make you happy.
One thing to remember, as it’s something I truly believe, being happy is a choice. It’s your choice if you want to be happy or miserable.
Life is short, and we should enjoy every single minute of it!
There are really tough and complicated things that happen in life. You cannot change situations, but it’s your choice on how you react to them.
Now that this question is in your head, something interesting is about to happen. You will keep thinking about it, and more answers will jump into your head at random times.
I had a friend come up to me a few weeks after asking him this question. He stopped me and told me he wanted to add additional things to his list! Which, of course, was awesome to hear.
As I said, you will keep thinking about this question. Is that really a bad thing?
A few things I have found fascinating are the three things I haven’t heard! I have been asking this question to people for over a year now, and the things NOBODY HAS MENTIONED:
- Their Job
- Possessions (think house, cars, and so on)
There is a HUGE difference between what we think is important and what truly Makes Us Happy.
Now you may be wondering what the majority of people have mentioned. I’m sure a few of them are things that you have already been thinking about.
- Spending time with family
- Being around friends
- Enjoying the sunset
- Drinking a cup of coffee (or other tasty beverage)
- Simply enjoying the present moment (this is harder than you think)
What if money was not involved?
I recently watched a YouTube video that relates to this question perfectly. As I mentioned above, nobody mentions the money!
I highly suggest you take the next three minutes and watch Alan Watt’s video below:
That could be an entirely different post. Maybe I should write about that. After watching the video above, I really got to thinking about what that would mean to me.
My Answer to What Makes Me Happy?
This is simple; it’s time spent with my family and friends, and time outdoors.
You might think that is a given. But, if you have read my blog, you know that I have had some very rough patches in my life, used to work a very demanding job, and went through a divorce.
One of the main reasons I started Wilde Escape was based on this question. It took longer than I want to admit, but it all came down to the two things I wasn’t getting. That was spending time with friends and not taking time in the outdoors.
This is also why I suggested taking some time to determine your answer at the beginning of this post. This became a HUGE eye-opener for me.
So what did I do? I started to change my mindset slowly. The biggest impact for me was changing how I thought about things. The biggest was being selfish and taking time to be outdoors. The other was making family and friends a priority in my life.
Since this change, after finding the things that make me happy, I feel a ton better. Not only that, but combining being with friends on a hike, camping trip, or bike ride is a double whammy!
Looking back over the last few years, I’m so thankful for having the ability to change things in my own situation.
I think you can too!
Now It’s Your Turn
At first, the question may seem very simple, but it can get pretty deep at a closer look. Maybe this will allow you to appreciate the small things or remember to take the time to enjoy the breeze outside and be present in the moment.
Take a minute to truly think about What Makes You Happy, and then leave me a comment below!
It’s been so much fun hearing what you all have to say. And it’s been fascinating that many of the answers to this question are the same!
Then, think about this, why aren’t you doing the things that make you happy and bring you joy?
Once you find out what they are, you should start doing them TODAY!